Kids – Frugalwoods Financial independence and simple living Wed, 12 Dec 2018 11:00:44 +0000 en-US hourly 1 How A Diagnosis Of Postpartum Depression Changed My Life Fri, 07 Sep 2018 10:00:24 +0000 How A Diagnosis Of Postpartum Depression Changed My Life

I didn’t plan on being diagnosed with postpartum depression and anxiety. It wasn’t part of my birth prep list or on my radar in a significant way. It was something that happened to other people, not something that I should worry about. And yet.

Littlewoods’ Birth

Our second daughter (dubbed Littlewoods) was born in February 2018 and the birth itself was amazing. Perfection. Ideal. Longtime readers know that our first daughter (Babywoods, who is now almost three!!!!) was born via emergency c-section following a terrifying discovery of cord prolapse during labor. I was whisked into the operating room and Babywoods was out in under seven minutes. Thanks to the fast response of our nurses and doctors, our daughter was born perfectly healthy and, after a week-long stay in the NICU, came home with us and a clean bill of health. After this first birth experience, and the incredible pain and difficulty I experienced in recovering from the c-section, I had high hopes for a VBAC (vaginal birth after caesarean) for baby #2.

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Musings On Hot Mess Motherhood Fri, 27 Jul 2018 10:00:56 +0000 Musings On Hot Mess Motherhood

People think I have it all together. The only reason I know this is because a lot of people email me saying, “wow, you really have it all together.” I close those emails immediately and never respond because: 1) my email inbox is a horror show of un-replied-to messages; and 2) I don’t know how to explain to these well-meaning strangers that I in no way have it all together. Mostly I am a mess and I spend my days trying to get through them with sporadic bursts of creativity in the form of writing or, as it happens right now, making gigantic sandwiches from excavated refrigerator remnants.

When you write about your life, as I do, there’s a tremendous temptation to make oneself look good. Most of us, after all, would prefer not to look like disorganized morons–speaking for myself here (although I did show you guys that before photo of my atrocious basement… ).

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I Look Like Somebody’s Mom. Probably Because I Am. And I’m OK With That. Mon, 30 Apr 2018 10:00:32 +0000 I Look Like Somebody’s Mom. Probably Because I Am. And I’m OK With That.

Parenting often feels like walking through water with all of my clothes on. Everything is damp, I’m moving more slowly than I ever thought possible, I’m more exhausted than I ever have been, and I just can’t seem to get anywhere, let alone to my destination. Come to think of it, I’ve completely forgotten what my destination even was to begin with. I’ve gone hours before having the chance to go to the bathroom. Days without a drink of water (ok, probably like 30 minutes, but I get dehydrated quickly) and I recently went nine months without wine.

It’s not easy to parent small people and it’s even harder to parent two small people. I think many of us have a tendency, or a desire perhaps, to paper over the challenges of raising kids. To focus only on the highs, of which there are many. But acknowledging the challenges doesn’t diminish the wonders.

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Introducing Littlewoods! Thu, 22 Feb 2018 11:00:56 +0000 Introducing Littlewoods!

Mr. Frugalwoods, Babywoods, and I are thrilled to introduce you to the newest member of our family: Littlewoods! Our second daughter was born on February 17th and tipped the scales at 8 pounds, 2 ounces and 20.5 inches long. I always thought it was hilarious that parents shared the weight and length of their children, but, we’re so proud of them and there’s not really anything else to report about them at this stage other than… hey! it’s a baby! I feel like I know many of you personally through the comments and emails you send me and I’m always so grateful to be privy to your financial lives. Hence, I wanted to share this joyful news with you as soon as I could!

I’m sure I’ll regale you with a more detailed rendition of her birth at some point, as I did with our first daughter, but for now, I just wanted you all to know that she has safely arrived.

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How I Remain Frugal While Pregnant (!!!) Mon, 18 Sep 2017 10:00:04 +0000 How I Remain Frugal While Pregnant (!!!)

We’re expecting baby #2! I decided to buck my customary tendency and, for once in my life, not bury the lead. Due in mid-February, baby #2 will make Babywoods a big sister and poor Frugal Hound a big sister times two. In fine frugal fashion, Mr. Frugalwoods and I are both thrilled that we’re having another girl because we already have all the clothes! Hooray for hand-me-down-down-down-downs… oh yes, many of our baby clothes are on their fifth baby (at least) and still going strong.

Quick administrative note: as longtime readers know, our first daughter has always been called Babywoods. She will now be Babywoods 1 and her little sister will be known as Babywoods 2. Look, I never said I was a genius at naming conventions…

As I’m quickly discovering is the case when you’re pregnant and also have an exuberant 22-month-old, a thriving online business, a striving homestead, and an elderly greyhound, things do not always get done quite on time.

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How I Work At Home With My Baby Fri, 28 Apr 2017 10:00:39 +0000 How I Work At Home With My Baby

Before Babywoods was born, everyone and their mother warned me that my life would never be the same. According to these doomsdayers, after I had a baby I would lose all of my time, money, hair, and sanity. And I’ll be honest here, they weren’t entirely wrong on that last one.

But what Mr. Frugalwoods and I have found over this past year and a half is that parenting is far less dire than pregnancy scare-mongering led us to believe. We are still very much the same people with very much the same interests, resources, and faculties–just with the addition of a wonderfully talkative, bubbly, active toddler.

Yes life is immensely different, yes it is harder (though funnier) to fly on an airplane, yes there is avocado in my hair right now–but despite all this, we didn’t subsume our former selves into parenting.

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Our Thrifty And Simple Baby’s First Birthday Party Wed, 22 Feb 2017 11:00:20 +0000 Our Thrifty And Simple Baby’s First Birthday Party

Babywoods is a year old! Ok actually she’s almost 15 months old, but sometimes Mommywoods doesn’t get around to writing articles exactly on time….

At any rate, our bebe crested her first annual milestone in late November and we feted her in style. Frugal style. Once again, I’m here to divest everyone of the commonly clung-to assumption that child-rearin’ is expensive.

A Photographer For A First Birthday Party?!

I have heard–and seen–tell of some lusciously adorned first birthday parties. We’re talking a custom cake, a hired photographer, snazzy decor, piles of gifts, and fabulous outfits for parents and kidlet. For a one-year-old. Who, I’m sorry, has no idea what’s going on. It seems the pressure to create a magical, opulent birthday experience for our kids has now extended to one-year-olds. Folks, this is going too far. Plus, if you hire a pony for a first birthday party, how exactly do you top yourself the next year?

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How To Fly With A Baby. On An Airplane. By Yourself. Thu, 29 Sep 2016 10:00:10 +0000 How To Fly With A Baby. On An Airplane. By Yourself.

Most of the time, my life looks like this. I’m on the homestead, frugaling it up with Mr. Frugalwoods, cleaning up greyhound barf (thanks, Frugal Hound… ), weeding the garden, not wearing make-up, baking bread, and letting Babywoods eat my toes while I write (at least they’re clean?).

But these past two weeks, I’ve deviated. I’ve been on the road, in the air, spending money, and otherwise indisposed. To that end, this post has relatively little to do with frugality, but a great deal to do with my life.

When Preparing For Vacation: First, Get Sick

It all started three weeks ago when Mr. FW caught a gnarly stomach bug. The kind of bug that makes you vow you’ll never eat again. He was nearly incapacitated as evidenced by the fact that he reclined on the couch and watched TV during the day–a sure sign of his imminent demise.

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How I Make My Own Baby Food and Other Frugal Parenting Tales Fri, 22 Jul 2016 13:16:30 +0000 How I Make My Own Baby Food and Other Frugal Parenting Tales

We’re almost eight months into this whole parenting gig and we continue to find Babywoods a rather inexpensive–and amazing–addition to our frugal lives. The overwhelming assumption and declaration is that babies are ridiculously pricey little beings. But there’s a frugal way to do just about everything in life and baby-rearing is absolutely no exception.

As a frugal friend of mine put it: babies are not expensive, parents are. Too true. We can choose to buy an absurd number of baby-related items, or we can abstain. Aside from the necessities, babies are relatively laid-back about their material possessions. Hand-me-down pre-chewed toys and pre-stained clothes are par for the course for our little nugget. She doesn’t mind and neither do we.

Thus far, I’ve chronicled our baby journey at each relevant stage:

  • Starting with pregnancy
  • Then a foray into frugal maternity clothes
  • Moving onto preparing the nursery
  • The birth itself
  • Our frugal childcare solution
  • And most recently, the gear we found worthwhile for the infant stage of life

Now that those nascent infant months have eclipsed, Babywoods’ personality is shining through as she learns, develops, smiles, grabs/eats toys, grabs/eats parents, tries to grab/eat Frugal Hound, and generally enjoys life as a small person who now knows how to sit up.

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Why (and how) I Became a Work-At-Home Mom Fri, 29 Apr 2016 12:32:17 +0000 Why (and how) I Became a Work-At-Home Mom

The past few months have been been some of the most eventful of our lives. From welcoming our first child (ok, second if you count Frugal Hound) to buying our homestead property, Mr. Frugalwoods and I feel like we’ve been on a wonderful–yet chaotic–roller coaster of hectic-ness. Amid these changes–and largely because of them–I also made the decision to quit my full-time office job and become a work-at-home Mommywoods.

Although I only recently made the official transition, I hatched this plan quite some time ago and have steadily schemed to bring it to fruition.  As with so many things in life, several factors conspired to make this new career choice feasible for me and the opportune financial circumstances are but one element.

Our Desire For Babywoods To Have A Parent At Home

I could pretty much stop writing right here because this is the dominant reason for my decision.

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