Marriage & Money – Frugalwoods http://www.frugalwoods.com Financial independence and simple living Wed, 12 Dec 2018 11:00:44 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.8 Reader Suggestions Of Frugal Date Ideas http://www.frugalwoods.com/2018/10/25/reader-suggestions-of-frugal-date-ideas/ http://www.frugalwoods.com/2018/10/25/reader-suggestions-of-frugal-date-ideas/#comments Thu, 25 Oct 2018 10:00:46 +0000 http://www.frugalwoods.com/?p=19060 Reader Suggestions Of Frugal Date Ideas

How on earth do you meet a partner and date frugally? This is a timeless question of love and finance that I’m asked as predictably–and nearly as often–as the sun rises and sets. Seriously, it comes up a lot. But the problem is that I’ve been married to Mr. Frugalwoods for over 10 years and we met in college–at ages 18 and 19–when frugal dating was the norm. I didn’t personally navigate the trenches of meeting and dating as an “adult,” so I don’t have first-hand experience to share. Enter: Reader Suggestions.

As has been our theme with Reader Suggestions lately, I’m focusing on topics that I don’t have personal experience with and thus, that I can’t offer concrete (or good) advice on. Last month we broached frugality with teenagers (waaaaay outside of my wheel house considering my house consists of a 2-year-old and an 8-month-old). And this month, we’re dipping a toe into the sometimes treacherous waters of dating.

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Reader Suggestions Of Practical, Useful Ideas For A Wedding Registry http://www.frugalwoods.com/2018/05/24/reader-suggestions-of-practical-useful-ideas-for-a-wedding-registry/ http://www.frugalwoods.com/2018/05/24/reader-suggestions-of-practical-useful-ideas-for-a-wedding-registry/#comments Thu, 24 May 2018 10:00:02 +0000 http://www.frugalwoods.com/?p=17634 Reader Suggestions Of Practical, Useful Ideas For A Wedding Registry

Next month, Mr. Frugalwoods and I celebrate TEN years of wedded bliss! Our marriage is, in many ways, the backbone of our frugality and journey to financial independence. Over the years, I’ve written about the role that our partnership plays in our financial decisions and the importance of being on the same financial page with your partner. But today, I want to discuss the lighter, fluffier side of getting married: the wedding registry!

Apparently a lot of you are getting married soon (congrats!) because I’ve received quite a few questions about the sometimes-dreaded, sometimes-loved topic of wedding registries. It’s easy to become overwhelmed by the endless lists of things you’re supposed to include on a wedding registry (champagne flutes AND martini glasses? Really?). And that little point-and-register scanner thingy in the Crate & Barrel doesn’t help matters.

It’s the worst intersection of impulse buying and, if you’re not careful, you’ll end up with a bunch-o-junk you do not need.

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8 Money Questions To Ask Your Partner This Valentine’s Day http://www.frugalwoods.com/2018/02/12/8-money-questions-to-ask-your-partner-this-valentines-day/ http://www.frugalwoods.com/2018/02/12/8-money-questions-to-ask-your-partner-this-valentines-day/#comments Mon, 12 Feb 2018 11:00:33 +0000 http://www.frugalwoods.com/?p=16645 8 Money Questions To Ask Your Partner This Valentine’s Day

“My spatula broke and I need to buy a new one (pauses; frowns). Is that OK with you?” -Mr. Frugalwoods

“Oh the blue spatula? Sad (pauses; frowns for empathy)! Yes of course, get yourself a new one.” -Mrs. Frugalwoods

This is a verbatim transcript of a conversation I had with my husband a few weeks ago. I know you’re riveted with jealousy over how exciting our lives are. As the cook of our household, Mr. FW sometimes requires new kitchen utensils and, yes, we discuss each one (along with everything else we buy).

This conversation might seem ridiculous or overboard or, frankly, dull; although hey! we did discuss the color of the spatula, so more intrigue there! However, this exchange is a perfect example of how my husband and I communicate about our money and the shared responsibility we have for ensuring that our finances are in order.

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How We’ve Enjoyed Nine Years Of Marriage With Frugality As The Backbone http://www.frugalwoods.com/2017/06/21/how-weve-enjoyed-nine-years-of-marriage-with-frugality-as-the-backbone/ http://www.frugalwoods.com/2017/06/21/how-weve-enjoyed-nine-years-of-marriage-with-frugality-as-the-backbone/#comments Wed, 21 Jun 2017 10:00:24 +0000 http://www.frugalwoods.com/?p=14261 How We’ve Enjoyed Nine Years Of Marriage With Frugality As The Backbone

Mr. Frugalwoods and I celebrate nine years of marriage this month. We got married young–at 24–and reflecting back on the people we were when we met at age 19 during our second semester of our freshman year of college, I realize we’re quite different now. The languid unfurling of maturation that awaited us at 19 was a mystery as are the years yet to come. The key for us, and the reason we’ve stayed married and deepened our relationship, is that we’ve changed together.

We’ve aged, matured (hopefully), and charted new iterations of ourselves as a team. One of the aspects of our shared life that’s brought us closest, and enhanced our connection most profoundly, is our frugality. And I’m not just saying that because this is a place where I write about frugality. This is a place where I write about my life, and frugality is a central, pivotal aspect of my worldview.

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Crowdsourced Ideas For A Unique And Thrifty Valentine’s Day http://www.frugalwoods.com/2017/02/03/crowdsourced-ideas-for-a-unique-and-thrifty-valentines-day/ http://www.frugalwoods.com/2017/02/03/crowdsourced-ideas-for-a-unique-and-thrifty-valentines-day/#comments Fri, 03 Feb 2017 11:00:53 +0000 http://www.frugalwoods.com/?p=12641 Crowdsourced Ideas For A Unique And Thrifty Valentine’s Day

The intersection of money and romantic relationships represents one of the most volatile combinations. Furthermore, disagreements over money are a leading cause of divorce in the United States. Clearly, we have unresolved issues over not just our money, but how we spend our money in service of our relationships. And into this fray enters Valentine’s Day, the ultimate consumer binge on useless clutter designed to be generically, thoughtlessly romantic.

Wait, wait, you say! Valentine’s Day is cute! It’s fun! And, actually, I agree. I am, after all, a supreme sucker for holidays. But even I, the holiday devotee, have to admit that Valentine’s Day is a tad too transparent in its thinly veiled prompts to spend money on things we obviously do not need.

Our culture promotes an ersatz paradigm of demonstrating emotion through material goods. And Valentine’s Day hits this notion at its very heart: we’re supposed to express how much we love our significant other through buying them… stuff.

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A Frugal Valentine’s Day: Do Instead Of Buy http://www.frugalwoods.com/2016/02/12/a-frugal-valentines-day-do-instead-of-buy/ http://www.frugalwoods.com/2016/02/12/a-frugal-valentines-day-do-instead-of-buy/#comments Fri, 12 Feb 2016 11:30:39 +0000 http://www.frugalwoods.com/?p=9841 A Frugal Valentine’s Day: Do Instead Of Buy

I do not hate Valentine’s Day. I’ll be honest with you right now, I’m rather a sucker for adorable little holidays like Halloween and V-Day. Ok, being totally honest, I like big holidays too. Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthdays… I’m smitten! What I do hate is the rampant commercialization of these holidays.

But for my part, I choose to tune out the endless prompts to buy more stuff. Instead, I focus on the love that springs forth when we don’t get caught up in what we’re buying and instead get caught up in the joy of what we’re doing.

My Favorite Valentine’s Day

Mr. Frugalwoods and I vacillate between “celebrating” V-Day and ignoring it entirely, but my most favorite Valentine memory is from our senior year in college. I came home from class on the afternoon of February 14th to find that Mr.

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Reader Suggestions On: How To Convince Your Husband Or Wife To Be Frugal http://www.frugalwoods.com/2015/10/30/reader-suggestions-on-how-to-convince-your-husband-or-wife-to-be-frugal/ http://www.frugalwoods.com/2015/10/30/reader-suggestions-on-how-to-convince-your-husband-or-wife-to-be-frugal/#comments Fri, 30 Oct 2015 11:57:52 +0000 http://www.frugalwoods.com/?p=8674 Reader Suggestions On: How To Convince Your Husband Or Wife To Be Frugal

I recently put out the query “how do you convince your husband or wife to be frugal?” It’s a question Mr. Frugalwoods and I receive with regularity and it’s one that we’re woefully inept at answering having never done it ourselves. Since we came to the decision to pursue extreme frugality together, we haven’t had the first-hand experience of navigating the challenging waters of aligning divergent financial goals.

And so, I shamelessly begged asked all of you fabulous Frugalwoods readers to share your thoughts, ideas, and opinions on how to get on the same page financially (or not) with one’s partner. Your answers ran the gamut and were thoughtful and heartfelt–I’m tremendously thankful to all of you for sharing your wisdom. I’ve compiled some of the responses we received below in the hopes that this post will serve as a resource for anyone who is struggling financially within a relationship.

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How Do You Convince Your Husband Or Wife To Be Frugal? http://www.frugalwoods.com/2015/10/16/how-do-you-convince-your-husband-or-wife-to-be-frugal/ http://www.frugalwoods.com/2015/10/16/how-do-you-convince-your-husband-or-wife-to-be-frugal/#comments Fri, 16 Oct 2015 13:28:14 +0000 http://www.frugalwoods.com/?p=8536 How Do You Convince Your Husband Or Wife To Be Frugal?

“Frugality is so awesome! Now, how do I convince my spouse/partner to get on board with it?” Mr. Frugalwoods and I are asked this question almost daily and I was all set to write some windbaggy mellifluous literary masterpiece in response. The only hitch is that I have to confess my honest answer is “I have no idea.”

Mr. FW and I struggle with plenty of other hurdles in our marriage, but we’re fortunate that we’ve always been on roughly the same page as far as frugality and our financial independence goal are concerned. In fact, we’ve found that frugality brings us closer by enabling us to eliminate the distractions of consumerism and instead focus on our relationship.

This question usually comes to us contextualized within someone’s inspiring story of discovering the incredible benefits of frugality–which extend far beyond the mere monetary–and their desire to implement frugal approaches throughout all spheres of their life.

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I Need A Gift For My Anniversary Like Frugal Hound Needs A Bicycle http://www.frugalwoods.com/2015/06/19/i-need-a-gift-for-my-anniversary-like-frugal-hound-needs-a-bicycle/ http://www.frugalwoods.com/2015/06/19/i-need-a-gift-for-my-anniversary-like-frugal-hound-needs-a-bicycle/#comments Fri, 19 Jun 2015 11:00:47 +0000 http://www.frugalwoods.com/?p=6607 I Need A Gift For My Anniversary Like Frugal Hound Needs A Bicycle

Mr. Frugalwoods and I celebrated our 7th anniversary this week and I thought you might like to know what we got for each other. Try to contain yourself: it was nothing. Yep, that’s right, absolutely zilch. We’ve never been hot on gifts for one another and now that’s more true than ever as our relationship matures and frugality blissfully permeates our lives.

I know that gift giving is significant for some couples and, I certainly won’t judge if it’s meaningful to you. Early on in our relationship, identifying the root reason behind gift giving was eye-opening for us. We realized that we were giving gifts to each other mostly because we thought we should. We viewed gift-giving as a cultural norm and we were adhering to it without considering whether or not it was something we actually wanted to do. Calling into question every instance of “expected” spending has caused us to live much richer, fuller lives devoid of doing things just because everyone else does or because we think we should.

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The Curious Parallels Between Frugality and 7 Years of Marriage http://www.frugalwoods.com/2015/06/15/the-curious-parallels-between-frugality-and-7-years-of-marriage/ http://www.frugalwoods.com/2015/06/15/the-curious-parallels-between-frugality-and-7-years-of-marriage/#comments Mon, 15 Jun 2015 11:29:43 +0000 http://www.frugalwoods.com/?p=5698 The Curious Parallels Between Frugality and 7 Years of Marriage

Mr. Frugalwoods and I got married seven years ago. Yesterday was our anniversary and we’ve had a pretty awesome and frugal ride thus far. Meeting our freshman year of college, when we were 18 and 19, meant that we essentially grew up together and honed our approach to life as a team.

Now that we’re at least passably mature adults, I’ve realized our trajectory is equal parts amazing and terrifying. It’s amazing because we were able to navigate the early challenges of adulthood side by side, but terrifying because we were so young and immature when we met that I’m somewhat shocked we held it together and made it this long! I think the key to our longevity as a couple is our adaptability, our willingness to change together, and our lack of fear for the unknown (coupled with some foolhardy gusto)–all of which, incidentally, are attributes of the frugal weirdo.

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