How on earth do you meet a partner and date frugally? This is a timeless question of love and finance that I’m asked as predictably–and nearly as often–as the sun rises and sets. Seriously, it comes up a lot. But the problem is that I’ve been married to Mr. Frugalwoods for over 10 years and we met in college–at ages 18 and 19–when frugal dating was the norm. I didn’t personally navigate the trenches of meeting and dating as an “adult,” so I don’t have first-hand experience to share. Enter: Reader Suggestions.
As has been our theme with Reader Suggestions lately, I’m focusing on topics that I don’t have personal experience with and thus, that I can’t offer concrete (or good) advice on. Last month we broached frugality with teenagers (waaaaay outside of my wheel house considering my house consists of a 2-year-old and an 8-month-old). And this month, we’re dipping a toe into the sometimes treacherous waters of dating.
Welcome to my monthly Reader Suggestions feature! Every month I post a question to our Frugalwoods Facebook group and share the best responses here. The questions are topics I’ve received multiple queries on and my hope is that by leveraging the braintrust of Frugalwoods nation, you’ll find helpful advice and insight. Join the Frugalwoods Facebook group to participate in next month’s Reader Suggestions!
Dating Your Partner/Spouse
Oh but wait! As I compiled all of the excellent advice from Frugalwoods readers, it dawned on me that I do, in fact, date! I just happen to be married to the person I date. But we date! And if you happen to have a longterm partner/spouse, you should “date” them too. It’s fun, it strengthens a relationship, and it carves out time to focus on each other in a unique and concentrated way. Plus, did I mention it’s fun? I think of our dating life as categorized into two distinct segments: pre-kids and post-kids.
Was easy and often! Everything we did together was a date. We were so corny that a trip to the grocery store was a date. Long walks, hikes up mountains, lounging around the house on Sunday afternoons… all of this constituted “dating” For us, a “date” is time spent together with no one else present and no pressing distractions. It’s a chance to talk and to look each other in the eye and enjoy one another’s company and remember why we’re together. So, without kiddos in tow, we dated a lot! There wasn’t the constant time constrains or exhaustion or interruptions (and of course the joy!) that we now experience with our children.
In terms of the trope of going out for dinner and a movie, we were never really movie people, so it was easy to give that up (we realized neither of us has seen a movie in a theatre for at least a decade… probably longer). But that’s just our personal preference. Dinner out, however, is a different story. Eating dinner in a restaurant is probably one of my favorite activities. It’s right up there with hiking, yoga, and sleeping.
Same goes for Mr. FW. We are foodies, we appreciate good food, and we love a cozy ambience with a candle-lit table. But, in the most obvious frugal statement of this century, eating out is expensive. And so, we gave up eating out–full stop–back in 2014 and didn’t buy so much as a cup of coffee out. This zero tolerance policy worked pretty well for us until… we had kids. Pre-kid, we’d have dinner dates at home. Easy! We’d cook up something lovely (and by “we” I mean Mr. FW and by “lovely” I mean sometimes it was a frozen pizza, but no matter!), light a few candles, and sit down together for a relaxing meal during which no one screamed or threw food or put food detritus in their sister’s hair.
That was all well and good until… we had kids! Two of them! Now, we find that most of our time together is either late at night after the kids are in bed (and we are exhausted) or, it’s family time in the company of our two young babes. And we love family time! Don’t get me wrong, a desire to spend time alone with your partner doesn’t mean you don’t want to spend time with your kids. Rather, it’s a healthy opportunity to step outside of your role as parents and back into your role as partner/spouse.
Since Mr. FW and I both work from home, we see each other approximately 9,876 times a day. We eat most of our meals together (along with our darling children) and we work side by side in bathing the kids, putting them to bed, doing housework, and so forth. Given this, we have an open line of communication. There are never-ending discussions of family life logistics: grocery lists, preschool pick-ups, Halloween costume assembly, teething, brushing teeth, not using teeth on sisters, lots about teeth apparently. And then there’s our never-ending discussion of homestead life logistics: putting up wood for winter, the vegetable garden, prioritizing which fields to mow, fruit tree pruning, tractor maintenance, and wild animal mitigation (looking at you, woodchuck menace).
In short, we do a lot together. We’ve chosen to do a lot together–to live together, to raise two children, to homestead, to both work remotely from home–and we spend a lot of our time together, However, what we found after moving to our homestead and having our kids is that we weren’t spending enough time focused just on us and on our relationship. Everything became about the farm, the kids, the businesses, the laundry, ordering propane, canning cucumbers from the garden.
We’re an efficient team, me and Mr. FW, and our strengths and weaknesses compliment each other well. But it’s also important that we remember why we’re teammates. And so, we started going out to dinner once a month. Obviously this isn’t the only time we say I love you or hold hands or look at each other, but it is concentrated, dedicated time together away from our homestead and our kids.
Yes, we could theoretically do this at home–and we do sometimes, but it’s tough to carve out that mental space when surrounded by baby toys and undone dishes. There’s something about getting OUT of our regular environment for a few hours. There’s something special about knowing we don’t have to respond if one of the kids wakes up. There’s something peaceful about knowing we don’t have to prepare the food or do the dishes.
It’s not the most frugal dating option. And we don’t even go to a “cheap” restaurant. Rather, we go to our favorite local spot, which has a charming ambiance with candles and quiet tables (we’ve gone to a few “trendy” spots that were WAY too loud for us. We go out to get away from noise, not to attract more of it 😉 ). Month after month, we find ourselves in a corner table at this same restaurant, often ordering the same things, and being so very happy and thankful we’re together.
In a continuation of how NOT frugal it is to dine out… when you have children, you’ve got to procure a babysitter. This is a tough one and we are fortunate to have a wonderful situation that I realize not everyone can replicate. Our wonderful neighbor–who is our adopted grandma to our girls–kindly babysits for us for free. We put the kids to bed before she arrives and have dinner waiting for her to eat while the kiddos sleep. We’ve found this works well because it’s easier–at this stage–for Mr. FW and I to do the normal bedtime routine with the girls and then leave. Plus, they both know and love our neighbor, so on the off chance that one of them woke up, they wouldn’t be surprised to see her.
In combing through our expenses every month in order to share them in my monthly expense reports, I note that our dinners out are sometimes one of our most expensive line items. And I am 100% fine with that. At this stage of our lives, at this juncture of being busy parents to young children, this monthly dinner out is a needed respite for us and a necessary element of marriage maintenance and strengthening.
While this works well for our family, it may not be the answer for you. There’s not a one-size-fits-all “right” answer for frugal dating. It might be doing it rarely–like we do–or it might mean doing it more often but less expensively. Or, more likely, it’ll be some combination.
If you’re interested in reading more of my thoughts on relationships and money, check out:
- 8 Money Questions To Ask Your Partner This Valentine’s Day
- How We’ve Enjoyed Nine Years Of Marriage With Frugality As The Backbone
- A Frugal Valentine’s Day: Do Instead Of Buy
- I Need A Gift For My Anniversary Like Frugal Hound Needs A Bicycle
- The Curious Parallels Between Frugality and 7 Years of Marriage
- A Married Person’s Guide To Love And Frugality
- How Insourcing Strengthened Our Marriage
- Behind the Scenes of a Happy Frugal Marriage
Now, let’s see what advice you all have to offer!
How Frugalwoods Readers Date On The Frugal
Lisa suggests, “Walks, walks, and more walks! From the time my husband and I met until the present, rain or shine, freezing or sweltering, this has always been our way of connecting. We also enjoy cooking special meals together, curling up with some tea and a DVD from the library, having potlucks with our friends, and playing board games or Rock Band.”
Katherine shared, “We met in Buffalo, NY which is where my husband lived at the time (we live about 45 minutes south of there now) and Buffalo is known for the number and variety of its festivals. Our second date was to an art festival and it was the best date I’ve ever been on in my life. We went to a ton of other festivals that summer, most of which were totally free. Dating frugally was not anything that we ever discussed (it took a few years of gentle pressure to bring him around to my way of thinking on that topic 😉) it just sort of happened because there are so many fun things to do outside in the summer. One of our favorite free activities now is going to open houses. We’ve seen some really cool historic properties and, contrary to making us less satisfied with what we have, it makes us appreciate our own home more and recognize what a good investment it is.”
Sarah wrote, “I met my husband while we were both working at a sustainability camp (great place to meet frugal partners, by the way, because environmentalists tend to be very concerned about conserving resources 🙂 ). We kept our dates frugal by doing a ton of cooking at home and having lots of outdoor adventures. It helps that he’s an amazing cook and that I was a starving college student. Some of my most romantic memories were of him making omelettes for us with seasonal vegetables each morning.
We also got into “foraging” and learned the native flora of our region–so we made super cheap, delicious meals like homemade pizza with dandelion greens and wild onions. Or fiddlehead ferns sautéed in butter. Or morel mushroom ravioli. Foraging (as long as you’re super careful) is awesome because it’s two dates in one: not only do you get to walk around in the woods together and look for edible plants, but you then come home and cook them!
At that point we also lived on one of the Finger Lakes, so in the summer we’d go for romantic moonlit swims off the docks, or walk barefoot up the shale bottomed creeks. And in the winter after fresh snow, we’d snowshoe through the wooded portions off campus. Seven years into our relationship, and we still do a ton of cooking in as dates (including grocery shopping together)–this past weekend, I had dream about pasta puttanesca, and Jordan obliged by making it for me. And we spent last night watching a movie and folding dumplings to freeze and eat throughout the week. We also still incorporate nature, and have added two dogs into the mix. We go for a lot of early morning walks, and often take them hiking or swimming (though now we live in the south, and so no longer get to do things like snowshoeing, which makes me super sad!). We’ve also added chess to our frugal date regimen! We’ll light a candle and curl up together for a game once a week or so. I usually lose, but I’m okay with it.”
Diana shared, “I met my husband at a bar in Korea when I went to support my friend’s husband’s band; he was working his ‘side hustle’ as the kids call it as a bartender. Our first date was hiking. Our favorite frugal dates are outdoor festivals with no or low-cost entrance fees, coffee houses with live music/poetry events (we can buy one indulgent drink each and enjoy), and hiking. We also love swing dance (lessons are pricey, but we learned a long time ago), but cover fees at dances can be quite expensive. We’ve started volunteering to take tickets and help with set up and breakdown to save on cover fees. We make friends with other local dancers, help out, and save money. It’s a great win-win! Babysitting is our most cost-prohibitive expense for dating right now. To save on babysitting, we use responsible teenagers (I am a high school teacher, so I know a lot of responsible teens!)–they cost less than a “professional” and often spend more active time with the kids.”
Kristin suggests, “Cooking fun, new, creative meals! My husband and I have been doing this since very early in our relationship as we worked to pay off our student loans (They’re all paid off now!). Research something you’re craving together, make a shopping list, get the ingredients, cook it together, and enjoy it together at home. It can be fun to get the ingredients somewhere special, like a farmer’s market that’s walking distance from your home, and stop for a simple coffee at a local coffee shop on the way. Also, hiking and going for walks in general! This is such a great way to just spend time in the moment together, and it’s free 🙂 I think that the biggest key for us has been learning to see the potential for fun, novelty, and adventure in daily life. With this potential, it’s rare that we really need to spend money for entertainment.”
Leah wrote, “I met my husband via OkCupid. Not sure how great it is these days (it’s been 10 years since I used it!), but it’s a free dating website that works really well. When we first met, neither of us was making much money. We did a lot of frugal dates. We went hiking often at our local nature center, would cook dinner together, played card and board games, watched movies we already owned, took lots of walks, went people watching, and took vacations to relatives’ houses. We got to meet each others’ families (extended families too) without breaking the bank.
Thinking of more: Geocaching is free at Minnesota state parks, so we would do that too to add some extra fun to our hikes. We got a “couples” gym membership and worked out a lot (cheaper than two individual memberships), and we’d also go for runs and walks together. His school has lots of performances and offers free tickets to faculty, and no one minded that he got me in too. That was fun. In a bigger city, I’m sure there’s lots of free arts things you can do for dates if you’d like. Honestly, I look back on our early relationship and miss all the frugal fun we had. We have more money now but not much time due to having two little kids (plus, the cost of babysitting is a lot!).”
Rebecca said, “Weather dependent: a sunset picnic at the beach (or by a river, or anywhere with an incredible view), playing tourist in a town (do homework first on quirky items about the town to start conversation and you walk from place to place). Slight piggy back on others’ ideas: game night (dice game: left, right center or cards – crimes against humanity is a great conversation starter), movie night at home with popcorn, old school candies or make smores. If you have a firepit – one starlit night – make a fire, bring out your favorite beverage & smores! – star gaze together. Where we live – many of the local bars have free live music and drink specials. That’s an option as well.”
Stephanie shared, “I tried to plan one “different” activity each month (and budget for it). Sometimes this was going to a sports game, sometimes it was the movies, a (free) local music festival, going hiking etc. The rest of the month we might eat out, or I would cook, but we kept things simple. He still remembers the local music festival as a “perfect” day. Including food, we probably spent $40 total, but we watched music, painted pictures (that we still have), ate some ethnic food, bought used books, read poetry, and more.”
Katherine wrote, “We have been happily married for 27 years, but when we dated we did:
1. Stay in movie and homemade popcorn.
2. Go for a drive just to see what you see.
3. Discount cinemas.
4. Take a hot thermos of hot chocolate and go see a football game, high school or college.
5. Get nosebleed seats at Minute Maid Park to see the Astros on Dollar Hot Dog Day. I think the tickets were about five dollars apiece.
6. Ride bikes together.
7. Go for a walk.
8. Go camping.
9. Go on picnics.
10. Go to the drag races where he was a pit crew chief — this was in fact, our very first date.
11. Volunteered at soup kitchens to never forget how fortunate we truly are.
12. Went to local “pick-your-own” farmer’s markets to get tons of beautiful produce. What we didn’t eat fresh, we canned.
13. Frequent local taquerias on our dinners out. You could get two tacos and a bottle of beer for about three bucks and unlimited chips and salsa. He learned how to say “Dos tacos, un tazón de frijoles refritos y una cerveza, por favor,” when he was a bachelor and new to Texas. Translation: Two tacos, a bowl of refried beans, and a beer, please.
I still do these things with him. I’m still crazy about my adorable frugal hubby!”
Diana wrote, “Met my hubby through an online dating site. First date we met at a restaurant..just having coffee. We did go to one movie for a date. My house was directly behind his place of employment. He would stop by on his way to and from work just to hang out. We’d watch tv or I’d cook or we’d have pizza. We never rarely went out on a date. Now..19 yrs later we go out maybe once a month for dinner. We consider our date night..going to tractor supply to get chicken food and dog food for our 3 German Shepherds. We both are happy home bodies.”
Rachel shared, “We did (and do) a lot of walks, hiking, and picnicking. Some of our best meals were either grabbed at the local grocery store and taken on a hike, or else prepared together at home, put into a picnic basket (with blanket of course) and taken to a nearby lake to watch the sunset. We picnic so much that we received 3 (3!) picnic baskets as wedding gifts hahaha! Another key point for us is that when we do “date night” even if it is at home, it is still “date night.” So we put the wine in the fridge to chill, and my husband and I will get ready in separate rooms. I put on my dress and make-up and heels, and he usually will a button up and slacks, and prepare the table with a table cloth and candles. He has to close his eyes until I come out and am ready. So we are intentional about making our at home dates, actual dates. I have one very vivid memory of an at home date, where I had set-up our patio table outside and my husband had brought home flowers. So we ate under the stars with a flower bouquet, candles lighting the table, and a delicious salmon straight from the oven, with chocolate dipped fruit for dessert. Still one of the best meals I’ve ever had, and definitely the most romantic.”
-Buy some coloring books & crayons from the dollar store and make hot chocolate complete with an absurd amount of marshmallows. Bonus points if you build a pillow fort. 😉
-Check out books from the library. One person reads out loud, so you both can enjoy the book together. Right now we’re going through the Harry Potter series (again). 🙂
-Once a month, our local thrift store does a 50% off day. We love shopping but we try to do it frugally. We like to save our cash & roll our coins so it doesn’t affect our budget and go on a “shopping spree” (that has yet to cost us over $15!). Much more fun (and affordable) than going to a mall, and I have a particular penchant for finding high-end or designer items for ridiculously cheap (I used to buy and resell brand name clothes for extra income). Last time we went, I found future hubby a much-needed laptop case for school for $2.50… if we had bought it new, the original price would have been $300!!
Siera said, “My husband and I met at our church college group, and had a big group of mutual friends. We all spent time together every Sunday night. When we started dating we were already best friends, so hanging out together was natural, and we’re both pretty low-key people. We went for walks, had picnics at the park, played board games/card games at my house (which was my parents’ house), played catch or basketball at the park, and literally just sat together and read books! Weekend dates/activities included going hiking (my favorite!), camping trips with groups of friends, or visiting local historic sites, state parks and museums (nothing very pricey, and we almost always bring our own food/picnic).
Regular every-day meals together were and still are really important to us – nothing fancy, just normal meals, prepared at home, eaten together as part of our daily routine. (So simple and obvious, but so meaningful.) These are all things we still do together as a married couple – now we just add doing house work and yard projects together to the list! That was my long answer. My short answer is this: we go for regular walks together (hikes would be even better if we lived close to trails!!) Walking together gives us the perfect chance to prepare for or unwind after our day, get a little exercise, and talk – about anything and everything! I’ve found it’s much easier to talk through the tough stuff, brainstorm problems or exciting opportunities, and just have fun sharing the events of our days while we’re walking. And, it’s completely free :)”
Morgan wrote, “We try to do date nights at home. Dating Divas is a great resource for free ideas. Our favorite one so far has been a DIY wine and paint night. We bought canvases and paint from a craft store, refreshments from Aldi, and found a painting tutorial on YouTube. Super fun and no one was around to judge our terrible art…win-win!”
Maluna said, “We hike, take drives down to the Ohio River, sometimes we pack a lunch or stop at a small diner….never chain restaurants. We stay out of touristy towns, don’t shop there, maybe just drive around and look at historical neighborhoods….low costs, and loads of fun!!”
Jasmine suggests, “Outdoor events that are BYOB. Free concerts, air shows, festivals. We go to a food truck “picnic” and half the time we bring our own food. Even if we buy food, we bring our own beer or wine and spend maybe $20. We have free Shakespeare in the park near us. Summer is EASY. Winter on the other hand takes more effort. I’m not a huge fan of cold outdoor activities. We’ve been looking at lists of “best cheap eats” type of restaurants to focus on.”
Annaliesse wrote, “My husband and I met on Friendster about 15 years ago. He was definitely using it as a free dating site despite that not being its purpose! We did a lot of picnics, going hiking, or going to the beach when we were dating. One of our current favorite date nights is our monthly playing of the legacy boardgame Pandemic. It’s a cooperative game so we’re on the same side, working together to prevent the world from succumbing to viral pandemics. The legacy version means that every time you play, you impact the board permanently, effecting all future plays. The game is designed to be played 1-2x/month for a year, depending on whether you win the first time. We both really look forward to these nights. Great way to have a special time after the kids go to bed. Game costs between $40-50, but spread out over 12-24 times, I would consider it frugal.”
Mallory said, “We also love to cook for each other and try to “go crazy” for anniversaries or special occasions and find the more expensive cuts of meat or nice bottle of wine is still cheaper than a meal out. We also ask for gift cards for Christmas from family and give each other event tickets and gift cards. That gives us a few “free” date nights a year.”
Laurel suggests, “Potluck, game night! Many years ago we also did Croquet tournaments and Sunday brunch potlucks. Of course, friends brought their own toddler who helped move the balls and brought home a win for my friend Annie and me.”
Bev likes, “Cooking in and then going out for a drink at a restaurant with live music. We stumbled into this one, because the local restaurant with great music happens to have terrible food–talk about a waste of money! So, we just go for a drink or coffee and dessert and throw a few bucks into the musicians’ jar.”
Alina wrote, “We get a zoo membership every year and go a least once or twice a month, so each visit is pretty frugal on its own.”
Jennifer shared, “We do lots of at home date nights that generally revolve around food. We rotate between wine and cheese plate nights or nights where we cook dinner together after the baby is in bed. We find lots of recipes together on youtube ahead of time to cook together. Then we watch something on Netflix, YouTube, or DVD.”
Christina wrote, “My boyfriend and I do cooking dates, where we’ll cook Thai, since it’s a fav of ours and we’ll even do the grocery shopping together! My second date with my guy, he took me skating. It was super romantic, and since the ponds are frozen everywhere in the winter, it was free. That’s one of my favourite dates of my life!”
Kait said, “One thing I have always thought was a good idea was to fix a really good dinner at home and then go out somewhere romantic just for dessert. That way you are still getting the ambiance of a nice romantic place, but not having the price tag of a full meal.”
Alright I’m ready for more dates, Mr. FW! I love all of these ideas! However, I also realize that one of the inherent challenges of meeting people and dating frugally is that, in order to meet people, you have to go out (since it seems unlikely they’ll just show up on your doorstep). I appreciated the frugal ways to meet other frugal people that several readers mentioned (and that I’ve heard from frugal friends):
- Free online dating sites
- Through volunteering
- In hiking/trail clubs
- In adult intramural sports leagues/teams
Then, there’s the major challenge of first dates because it’s cheapest to be at home (and there are millions of ideas for what to do together at home), but this is also weird to do with someone you’ve just met (or don’t even know yet). And so, it seems that an outdoor activity is a winner! Walks, hikes, festivals/farmer’s markets, snowshoeing… these could all be done for free or cheap.
Another salient point here is that, if frugality and wise money management are important to you and important attributes for a partner to have, you’ll want to suss that out pretty early on. So if your first date is conventional–let’s say you go out to dinner–this could be your opening to discuss how you prefer doing free stuff because it’s so much more creative/interesting/saves money. See how they respond and decide from there if it’s a relationship worth pursuing. While we’ve devoted Reader Case Studies and Reader Suggestions to the topic of “encouraging a partner/spouse to be more money conscious,” the consensus is that it’s easier if you’re both money conscious to begin with. This isn’t to say that a financial management mismatch is a deal-breaker, but it’s a central tenet of most longterm relationships because how you use your money dictates the kind of life you’ll live. Plus–and I hate to say this in a dating post–but, arguments over money are a leading cause of divorce in the United States. Just throwing that out there.
Ok, so once you’ve met someone, here’s a summary of the excellent ideas shared by readers:
- Go to open houses.
- This is a fabulous one and something I’d forgotten we did a TON pre-kids. Open houses are free, they are endlessly entertaining, they’re informational–what’s not to love?! I actually have an entire post on how to open house like a boss.
- Take walks.
- Perfection. Easy, low barrier to entry, free, good exercise, and available in a neighborhood near you. I like this one for early/first dates since it’s quality time spent together, but you’re in public so there’s not the weirdness factor of being alone at someone’s house. Bonus is that dogs can join too!
- Free festivals.
- Oh yeah! This was another favorite of ours when we lived in the city. There’s always something happening somewhere for free–especially if you bring your own food!
- Free day at the art museum/zoo/planetarium.
- Most museums offer a free day once a week or once a month. Scope out the options in your area and plan accordingly! Additionally, many public libraries (including my tiny rural library) offer free passes to museums that you can check out with your library card. Culture + togetherness + free = big win.
- Head to the library.
- Speaking of the library, Mr. FW and I (again, pre-kids) used to walk to our public library, with thermoses of coffee in hand, and browse through the books and magazines in their sun-filled reading room.
- Forage for wild foods.
- What a creative idea! I realized Mr. FW and I do this now in our woods! The caution here is that you need to be well informed and certain of the foods you’re foraging. But what a great way to get outside and enjoy nature together!
Play chess or board games.
- An excellent one for double dates too! In terms of two-person games, Mr. FW and I like Scrabble and Lost Cities. When we can wrangle in other people, we’re all about Canasta, Ticket to Ride, Settlers of Catan, and… clearly we like board games.
- I am intrigued by Annaliesse’s mention of the legacy board game Pandemic. I’ve never played a legacy game before, but I love how she described the fun she and her husband have playing it together.
- Cook a meal together.
- Frugal, delicious, and lets you scope out if your date knows their way around a kitchen. Plus, preparing food often evokes conversations about family, childhood, and your sense of place. Cooking together might be an ideal way to learn about one another’s families and traditions.
- The winter version of talking a walk! It’s super easy to do (this coming from a person who watched “how to snowshoe” videos on YouTube before going the first time… really, there’s no need to do this, you just pick up one foot and set it down. Repeat until you reach your destination). Lucky for you, I have this post about winter recreation.
- Visit coffee houses with live music/poetry events.
- Lovely idea! For the price of a coffee, you can enjoy live entertainment!
- Barter in exchange for free admission to an activity.
- The example today was provided by Diana who, along with her husband, takes tickets at swing dances in exchange for free admission. Genius! For more barter/trade ideas, check out: How Barter and Trade Enhances Frugality and Community
- I’d forgotten until now that Mr. FW and I did this a few times in college and it was fun! To “Geocache” is to utilize a compass/map/GPS to locate a hidden “cache” that’s been marked by the program. It’s basically a treasure hunt for adults. What’s not to love!
- Volunteer together.
- This is a FABULOUS idea and something that Mr. FW and I did in college and really enjoyed. I can’t think of a better way to get to know someone than to spend time together helping others. This is also advice that my parents–married for 51 years–often give to people: volunteer as a couple. My parents feel it has deepened their relationship and they volunteer together to this day.
- Have REAL dates at home.
- Rachel and Morgan put my at home date regimen to shame! Rachel and her husband get dressed up for their at-home dates and Morgan and her husband do themed activities! Impressive.
- Another glorious outside idea with the potential to merge many of the above: cooking together, taking a walk, and bringing along a dog :)!